'Sometimes we're doing something somewhere and some racist BS happens,' Gay recalled. She told the crowd that through their relationship, she's helped radicalize Millman to the point where her white girlfriend is now the one challenging the haters. 'And the answer is usually, 'no,' because I'm from Nebraska, and I'm a Libra,' Gay said to much laughter. 'I wake up every day and ask myself, 'Am I being radical enough?'' Gay confessed. Melody Maia Monetīut the largest crowds by far turned out to hear speakers likeRoxane Gay, who was interviewed by her girlfriend, podcaster and educator at New York City's School of Visual Arts, Debbie Millman. Daly Barnett, left, and Danielle Blunt on the rooftop press lounge of the Kimpton Ink48 Hotel in New.